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Post by donkeychomp on Jun 5, 2018 19:28:31 GMT 1
This is so surreal I can hardly believe it. GF went to the US Embassy yesterday and then rang me to meet up at a local coffee shop at 2.30. I set off about 2 and she is not there. Rang, no answer, texted and about 3pm get a call to say she's run out of petrol and will be there shortly. She arrives, everything seems fine, then goes outside and sits on the only chair left, I suggest we go inside and she refuses. I ask her to come away from the table and talk to me. A flat NO. Women I thought and drove home. Getting to my (communal) garage I see a red rose and a mouldy banana skin on it. Eh? Then the lock wouldn't open, it seemed glued on. Went upstairs to my flat, and saw a bit of broken glass by the front door. Unlocked the door and oh no. The place is trashed. Maybe £10k worth of damage, called the cops, forensics have just been. Can't send pics at the mo as she stole all my pc dongles, along with an antique lava lamp and my very expensive leather bike jacket. Smashed all my basses too including one that is on eBay. And that money was for effing groceries. Got some tools and managed to unlock the garage and then saw her set of flat keys in a corner. It was my gf all along. To say I'm stunned is an understatement. Not sure what to do know, sitting here surrounded by glass and ruined pictures, models, basses and all my other belongings, some irreplaceable.
Alex
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Post by panzermatt on Jun 5, 2018 19:39:15 GMT 1
that is awful. i don't know what to say man.
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Post by donkeychomp on Jun 5, 2018 20:01:13 GMT 1
And just noticed a bread knife missing. Called the cops again.
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Post by Yogi on Jun 5, 2018 20:06:29 GMT 1
And just noticed a bread knife missing. Called the cops again. Check it's not stuck in your back,nasty business ,I feel for ya |
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Post by mouse on Jun 5, 2018 20:21:28 GMT 1
Jeeez Alex!
What a terrible story
Mouse
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Post by dusty350 on Jun 5, 2018 20:24:04 GMT 1
Bloody hell mate, where did that come from ? I thought all was going well ? Dusty  |
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Post by shaunthe2nd on Jun 5, 2018 20:29:08 GMT 1
OMG what a horrible story. She a sounds errrr unhinged? Hope you get sorted soon.
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Post by steve h on Jun 5, 2018 20:29:37 GMT 1
WTF??? Watch your back Alex.. Stay safe bud.
Get locks changed straight away, and wedge access doors until they're changed.
Empty tins are a good temp alarm system...… She's dangerous
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Post by veg on Jun 5, 2018 20:40:01 GMT 1
Ask the Police for a DSL alarm seriously if she is that unstable who knows what she will do. Tell me she didn't do the Tamiya Lc? Feel for you mate
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Post by sbscnor on Jun 5, 2018 20:42:11 GMT 1
F*&^cking hell Alex that's horrendous I have read this at least five times and cannot get my head around it, feel for you if I can help just shout
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Post by Tobyjugs on Jun 5, 2018 21:09:47 GMT 1
Crikey Alex that is so bad, I'm glad your ok.
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Post by Norbo on Jun 5, 2018 21:41:44 GMT 1
It this for real ? Bloody hell
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Post by donkeychomp on Jun 5, 2018 22:36:09 GMT 1
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Post by 4l04ever on Jun 5, 2018 22:38:42 GMT 1
For Fook sake.....did someone piss her off???
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Post by Norbo on Jun 5, 2018 23:57:19 GMT 1
f**k me mate im sorry it looks a real mess . its time to move on i think and im not being funny but she needs to pay for the damage you may love here but no one that can do that loves you you
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Post by donkeychomp on Jun 6, 2018 2:22:58 GMT 1
2 am now and finally the glass is cleared up. Forensics done, cops been. Sitting here looking at my shattered world. Nothing is worth trying to save. My precious 57 Jedson bass is in bits. How the f**k can my life get any worse. I care for my mum who now has the onset of Alzheimer's and my carers allowance gets reduced every month. The bass I had listed on eBay is now ruined so I will cancel that and say sorry to the bidders. That was due to end tomorrow and was doing well...and was food money. The way this is going I may have to bite the bullet and sell a bike, and I only have one worth any real money. Yes, the LC. The bike that was brought back from the dead and is now so close to being finished.
Never been at such a low ebb. Maybe it's the lateness of the hour.
Alex
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Post by Deleted on Jun 6, 2018 6:03:14 GMT 1
Geez. My hearts bleeding for you. Nothing I can say will help.
I think Norbo's right. She has to pay for it!!
What if it happens again?
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Post by donkeychomp on Jun 6, 2018 8:20:00 GMT 1
Thanks Ken and everyone else. No I won't sell Elsie I'll figure out what to do.
Alex
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Post by Deleted on Jun 6, 2018 10:31:15 GMT 1
Hope you have a few wins mate.
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Post by donkeychomp on Jun 6, 2018 10:34:50 GMT 1
Police just called me they have found her, alive and as well as can be expected. They will call me back later to discuss where we go from here.
I'm just relieved she's ok.
Alex
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Post by donkeychomp on Jun 6, 2018 23:50:16 GMT 1
Update. Police got that all wrong she is still at large. How the feck that happened....oh well. Finally got a call from the investigating officer and he says as I am trying to avoid taking her to court they are not looking for her. What? He says if I want to press charges then that is the only way to go really. So I said yes, will give him more details in an email tomorrow. Glad I changed the locks now and also glad that I am hyper aware of my surroundings as I still have images of her with a bread knife hiding somewhere.
Alex
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Post by rigga on Jun 7, 2018 0:09:23 GMT 1
f**k me thats terrible, police won't look for someone who is obviously in need of help, thats clever, hoping you can sort things out.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 7, 2018 4:32:00 GMT 1
Fookin hell... I was waiting for a punch line as I read that! Sadly it didn't come. All the best, that's a pretty f**ked up situation for you.
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Post by KevtheRev on Jun 7, 2018 6:24:05 GMT 1
You need to get rid mate . Life's hard enough .
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Post by dusty350 on Jun 7, 2018 7:12:36 GMT 1
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Post by stusco on Jun 7, 2018 7:25:50 GMT 1
Will the insurance payout if you don’t press charges?
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Post by Deleted on Jun 7, 2018 8:17:15 GMT 1
Alex. Cannot comprehend how you must be feeling right now. But try to take some support from all the above messages. Further I agree with Norbo. It is time to move on. Whilst my ex did not trash the house she was very cunning psychologically and planned her financial get out clause costing me many an LC. Apparently she had a track record of this. Hindsight is a wonderful thing, and I thought I knew her.
However all good now, and put it all behind me, although it was painful at the time.
I hope all ends positive Alex and you too can move on,
Best wishes
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Post by veg on Jun 7, 2018 8:55:53 GMT 1
Alex she should be deemed an adult at risk and a vulnerable misper (missing person) that is ridiculous. They have a duty of care whilst someone is that fragile and at the very least should detain her for a sec 136 assessment. Also you can withdraw support for a prosecution once she is found. I hope that she is found safe and well, moving on as others have said you owe to yourself to put you first, take care buddy.
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Post by donkeychomp on Jun 7, 2018 10:09:01 GMT 1
Once again a huge thanks to all of you on here. The support and kind words really has helped. Yes this is now a criminal case and the police are hunting for her. As for insurance, I have none. Still not cleaned up all the damage in my flat but so far my list reads, broken stuff £5K, stolen stuff £1k. Oh...one odd thing even though she wrecked all my basses the one I had on eBay sold last night, even though the buyer is aware of the damage.
Alex
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Post by donkeychomp on Jun 7, 2018 22:16:18 GMT 1
Another update. She's on FB and a friend has done some research. She posted yesterday she is stuck at a motorway services, no money, no fuel and even listed her bank details so people might 'donate' money. So I'm guessing my bike jacket and all the other stuff she nicked has been sold. Informed plod who don't seem bothered. Told them go there and get the CCTV for 6.24pm and see her drive in...get her reg number (no I don't know it) and then everyone's ANPR will light up if they drive by her.
Astounds me that I have to do all this...wtf are they all doing? Eating donuts at Costa?
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Surrey Police at their finest, yet again !